Thursday, April 16, 2009

How do I leave my babies?

So I may be the minority, but I have never left my little girl over night. It wasn't until Tatum was born that I left Spencer over night and that's just because I was giving birth. As you've all read, we're planning a trip to Hawaii next month and the more I think about it, the more I start to freak out, and not in a good way.

Tatum will be one on the 6th of May and she is completely attached to me. She's a cuddler and an absolute sweetheart. But I want to pose a question to all of you parents out there... Will my daughter hate me for leaving her for 5 days? Will she stop wanting to cuddle? Will she not want me when I return? She and Spencer will be staying with my parents (my mom is one of a couple people I trust to take care of my kids). I'm so nervous, I feel like I'm going to throw up. I had a meltdown and I was crying over just thinking about it. Ridiculous right? Part of me just wants to take them with me, but the whole point of this was for the hubster and I to have a "real" honeymoon, since ours consisted of 3 nights at the rainy Oregon coast.

Please be honest, I'm just so afraid she's going to cry the entire time I'm gone and then resent me when I return. How do I do this?


Kellie said...

We left Ethan overnight for the first time a few weeks ago when we went up to Washington for a wedding. He was a little older, almost 18 months, but he did just great. My Mom stayed at our house with them since it was easier for her to stay here and keep them in their familiar surroundings and routine. Grace barely even noticed that we were gone and Ethan did just fine. I've never been away from them for more then one night but it sure sounds nice!

joyntmadness said...

She definitely 100% will not hate you and 100% will not remember you ever leaving once you are back home...and coming home, by the way, is totally worth the trip away. The excitement on the kids faces when they see you again is AMAZING.

Tate will probably take it harder then Spence, but she will be fine. You are going to be a lot more upset than her. Every time I have gone away, I have spent half the time crying and the kids were just fine. ;)

A fun idea is to do video messages via cell phone with the kids (or skype if you have your computers...maybe skype is even on iphone?)...that way you can talk to them anytime you want while you are away.

They will be totally fine and if you keep stressing you won't have any fun while you are gone. Completely defeats the purpose. So cheer up and get excited...YOU ARE GOING TO HAWAII! Wa-hoo! ;)

Carrie said...

Kellie, sounds like your mom is a lifesaver! My mom is a little too set in her own ways, (not to mention she doesn't drive in the dark) to come down and stay here. Otherwise, that would be awesome! I think we're going to leave them for a weekend one of these days before going to far away just to see how they handle it. I have a sneaking suspicion (once I wean Tate) that they'll do fine together. Especially since Spencer is the one that calms Tate down when she's upset most of the time anyway. :)

Jennie said...

I've never left Aaron overnight either. I was just telling MIke how I was jealous that you were getting to go to Hawaii. We totally need a vacation too. Our honeymoon was also a few days at the Oregon Coast. Then, we went up to hang out with my mother-in-law. LOL For our HONEYMOON!! (She had been in Iraq for a year and had just gotten back in-country a couple days before our wedding, so we wanted to be able to spend time with her.)

So, nonetheless...we totally need to have a "real" honeymoon also!!

I think it's hilarious that you're taking the kiddos now. :P I'm sure it will still be a special trip though...and Spence will LOVE it!! :)